Lisa Fitzhugh

We’ve lost our heads and our courage, and are left with only our most manic thoughts and compulsive behaviors. Instead of circling up to hold hands, calm our nervous systems, and cool our tempers, we’re yelling at the storm and each other.  Worse, we’re still looking around for someone, anyone, in a position of authority to save us.

We are all afraid of different things, which is a good thing, because if something scary is happening, it’s helpful that some people are not afraid and keeping their heads, so to speak.  Otherwise, the collective nervous system would collapse under the strain. 

A summary of the skills required to ‘up’ our relational resilience—ie., the ability to engage in authentic relationships built on a foundation of trust.  Just a few of these skills include listening infused with curiosity, refraining from the need to be right, expressing authentic gratitude, patience to allow problems to unfurl in their own timing, practicing self-awareness, making the “intangibles” visible, acknowledging vulnerability, and taking responsibility for our egos fears and demands that the world be how we want it to be (vs allowing it to be how it is).